Happy Valentine’s Day….

Dear Diary,

Valentines Day is here again and some of the single folks out there are either posting angry comments or envious comments regarding the whole idea of celebrating love and relationships. Before you say anything more, just pause your emotions for a minute and please hear my thoughts.

I am tempted to say that Valentines Day is indeed, just another day like Christmas that was turned into a commercial opportunity to celebrate SOMETHING and sell chocolates, flowers and lingerie.

Funny thing is, it used to be a HUGE pressure for me as a girl during highschool to purchase chocolates to the one (or a few) seniors you had a crush on and to also buy “just because” chocolates for the other male friends because you didn’t want to let them feel like you didn’t care for their friendship. Chocolates which you would call “Giri-choco” or roughly translated as “politically correct just because” chocolates. Girls would still spend tremendous fortune on either putting together a package or a gift and buying a group chocolate box for those working around you at the office. So much work. So much drama. So little payback for all the monetary and emotional investments made for that one day.

I look back and wonder…. WHY?

I guess it’s like Halloween. Because it’s fun. Because everyone is doing it. You want to do it because you have someone to celebrate it with. But that would leave out those who don’t have significant others to celebrate with and if you were trying to be nice to your single friends by saying, “let’s celebrate LOVE!” then you’re surely going to be lynched – if not physically then verbally – which is contrary to the whole point of the special day.

REALLY? 
When it comes to Valentines Day, I still remember my first real Valentines dinner with my now hubby of many years. At the time, we had just became close friends but we were not dating – we were in that “gray area”. Being that I hated being alone on V-Day, I invited him over for dinner at my apartment.

Ding Dong!! (bell rings)

I see him through the peep hole that he is holding a bouquet of flowers. I am excited.

“Is that for me?” (as I receive the flowers from him)

“Yes, but it’s from a client of mine who gave me these – I thought you might enjoy them more than I would”.

“………..?!?”

We still talk about this incident and my hubby still defends himself to this day that he wasn’t clear that we were dating or that that was a date and that he didn’t want to be misconstrued so he came out with an honest answer.

A simple white lie would have done nicely but that is the nature of my hubby – a brutally honest man, LOL. Granted while I had mentally rolled my eyes with this response, I did not kick him out of the apartment and we still had a very nice dinner together – but to this day, I still shake my head thinking about his response.

LOVE ONE, LOVE ALL 
Now being married for a long time and settled in, I’m kind of glad that I am no longer buying into this celebration as a must-do activity…. “just because it’s a special day”. My hubby has been for a long while now, trying to excuse himself from needing to buy big flower bouquets and cards for this day because he is absolutely against being taken advantage of from the florists who have hiked up their flower prices. He is also lucky that I am not a huge fan of chocolates (I like them yes, but only in small doses) so he doesn’t need to get me a box either. That said, we don’t have any particular plans for tonight other than what we always do – have dinner together and enjoy each other’s company. It’s taken a lot of ups and downs, ins and outs to get to where we are but at the end of the day, it’s just another symbolic day that should be about celebrating LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS, not BEING A COUPLE.

Now being married for a long time and settled in, I’m kind of glad that I am no longer buying into this celebration as a must-do activity…. “just because it’s a special day”. My hubby has been for a long while now, trying to excuse himself from needing to buy big flower bouquets and cards for this day because he is absolutely against being taken advantage of from the florists who have hiked up their flower prices. He is also lucky that I am not a huge fan of chocolates (I like them yes, but only in small doses) so he doesn’t need to get me a box either. That said, we don’t have any particular plans for tonight other than what we always do – have dinner together and enjoy each other’s company. It’s taken a lot of ups and downs, ins and outs to get to where we are but at the end of the day, it’s just another symbolic day that should be about celebrating LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS, not BEING A COUPLE.

But I’d like to leave this entry with a little sweet something for all of my single and coupled friends out there. May you find happiness and sweetness in your life and be grateful when you have finally found “the one”. It might take longer than you wanted and you will come across that person when you least expect it. When you do find that person who unconditionally loves you (even after they had thrown up alcohol and ruined your slippers), you hang on to them – tightly.

Just sharing my love with you all.

Little (I’ll have 3 M&M’s please) Reiko and (I’ll have the whole bag) Turkey.

val2014

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